Marital relationship comes to a standstill on many occasions due to insecurities. Couples suffer from relationship depression because they fail to understand what is going wrong between them. One of the major signs of insecurity in a relationship is when there is a discord between the couple. This leads to constant and frivolous arguments.

Romantic relationship is an enjoyable experience but most of the time it is short-lived. One of the many reasons for relationship failure is insecurity. There are many reasons for insecurity.

1) The husband or the partner is not able to spend enough time with the wife. She may feel that the partner is avoiding her or making excuses not to spend quality time at home. The weekend maybe planned to be spent with his family or the boyfriend may spend time with his own circle of friends. All this adds to the stress in the relationship. The image in the woman’s mind is that he has time for everyone but not for her. Her disappointments add up slowly making her lonely and depressed.

2) Most men feel that once a relationship is established like marriage vows are exchanged or physical needs are satisfied, that is all there is to the woman. She is supposed to understand that he needs to be alone with his friends. He doesn’t always want her to tag along with him. But the woman’s mind is not tuned like a man’s. She needs comforting, understanding and most of all appreciation.

3) A good-looking colleague, an old classmate and even a sexy neighbor can bring about a total change in a romantic relationship. The husband or wife should understand that fooling around or even flirting with the outsider does hurt the partner. Some people do it just to tease the partner but at times, if the partner is not in the mood for a joke, it can cause insecurities.

4) Women tend to be very insecure about their looks, height, weight and age. She enjoys a little bit of adulation from the man of her dreams. But if the man prefers spending time watching a game on TV or reading a book at bedtime, then she cannot always be blamed for every heated argument.

5) There are some people who need more assurance than others. This happens when the romantic relationship is just blossoming and the trust in the relationship is yet to develop. It is necessary to reinforce the love and commitment so that she understands the nature of the relationship.

6) Trust in a relationship bridges the life of the couple. This should never be tampered with.

7) Insecurities occur when partners take one another for granted.

The best way to overcome insecurity is to talk things out. Communication is the only means of solving any kind of marital problem.

9) Respect between partners is crucial to overcome insecurity.

10) Renewing the romance with surprise dinners, memorable gifts or even a single-red rose can melt away all insecurities in a relationship in an instant.

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1) Lack Of Intimacy: When a man is cheating, there is a decline in the sex. That’s because he is fulfilling his need to fulfill someone else, somewhere else. There are other signs such as no holding hands in public, no cuddling, less kissing and hugging. On the other hand, if your lover gets super loving and showers you with attention, there might be a reason to raise an eyebrow as well. He maybe consumed with guilt. Or if he unexpectedly performs a mind altering act in bed that leaves you speechless and you know that he didn’t learn it from you, then where else do you think he learnt it from?

2) His Old Track Records: If you are in a position to talk to one or more of his old girlfriends, do it by all means. But ask them casually for they may get defensive. A man into a habit of cheating will under usual circumstances is likely to repeat his behaviour.

3) Missing In Action: A sure shot sign of a boyfriend who is playing the game unfairly is when he makes up all kinds of excuses as to why he can’t be with you because he is spending time elsewhere at a necessary event. Working late, conferences and tours, spending time with his co-workers more than required or needs more time to spend with his old or new buddies and you are never invited. These are good excuses to cover up his cheating ways.

4) Staying Away: In the beginning, the two of you used to do everything together, so why is it that you find yourself alone on a date night or at a cocktail lounge with your girlfriends on Friday or Saturday? If he becomes indifferent to your going out with him and actually encourages you to do so, it might be because he has plans on his own. He shuts you out, never shares what he is thinking or feeling, develops “I don’t give a damn” attitude and refuses to talk about the way the relationship is heading. If this sounds familiar then it could be that there is someone else on his mind.

5) Never Answers Calls Around You: You need not snoop around and check his messages when he is taking his shower. A way to tell if he is cheating is if he always turns his ringer off around you or walks out of hearing distance from you whenever “someone” calls. These are warning signs that he may be cheating. Receiving calls at odd hours or speaking on the phone in a strange manner are more signs.

6) New Improved Look: You have been together a long time and you are past the stage of dress-up and all of a sudden, dress-up is back and he is working out again. A guy is entitled to dress up once in a while, you might think, but you really have to face facts when he starts buying new underwear. They usually do buy them when they know someone else is going to see them because you as a partner have already seen them. Not only does he undergo a semi-wardrobe makeover but if he is showering more often than before, especially as he comes home and heads straight to bathe, he could be there washing off the evidence.

7) Cynical, Critical And Irritable: Men are excellent at fault finding. If his behavioral patterns change suddenly for the worse, there is possibility that maybe finding fault in you is to justify his cheating in his mind. That way your cheating boyfriend can say you drove him away because of your supposed faults.

Once you have discovered that he has been cheating, seek support from those around you. There is no point in taking revenge by sleeping with his friend. You have more of a character than him so it is best you move on and never look back again.

1) The changes in wardrobe, hairstyling, extra grooming care when done all of a sudden can raise an eyebrow. He/She decides to join gym or weight loss programme. The chances are that he/she is trying to impress someone else or perhaps is already in another relationship.

2) Making excuses for not being home. They justify their absence with dinner meetings, conference, business travels and get defensive when you question his/her whereabouts.

4) It is very commonly seen that the partner who is cheating tends to become more loving towards their partner because of their guilt. But this is short-lived. They slowly start arguing and create a tense environment at home and look for excuses to break-up the relationship or marriage.

5) With the internet being so easy and accessible, there are chances that he/she maybe romantically involved electronically. Some signs are that they are always logged in and have become a recluse. They switch the computers when you are around. Delete their cookies and history files so that you won’t know which site they visit.

There are chances that your partner has drifted from you and seeing someone else. Before confronting him/her always get some proof before you fly in with accusations. Try and keep a check on your emotions even though this is your life and a lot is at stake, so think and act reasonably. Listen to what your partner has to say without interrupting him. Weigh the pros and cons of the situation before making a final decision. Never grovel or beg in front of your partner if he decides to leave you for someone else. Discuss the situation with other members of your family and seek their support. Don’t be alone, request the company of family members and friends who will support you and stand by you no matter what.

Men and women both suffer when their partners cheat on them. But the cheating partner doesn’t care too much of it and if he/she did then they wouldn’t have cheated to begin with.

The feeling of being betrayed is really heart-wrenching, whether you are seeing someone for a short time or bound in marriage. The pain is the same. It also depends on the individual’s mindset. If the betrayed spouse is emotional then this heartbreak can make them do extreme things. They can be suicidal or can commit actions to hurt the cheating partner.

If there are children involved then life becomes extremely difficult. The feelings of betrayal turns into hate and that impacts the children’s lives too. There are no easy ways to forgive a cheating spouse. It takes a lot of emotional strength to overcome the situation when you have caught him in the act. Some women get so scarred witnessing a spouse cheat that they start hating all men. It disturbs their mental balance and they loathe every kind of relationship.

Women with big hearts do forgive husbands for their children’s sake. But it is rarely seen that men can forgive their wives if they have gone astray.

Temptations are everywhere but to strongly believe in your love and be unconditionally loyal to your better half is a challenge for many men and women. The heat of passion is an urge and those looking for some thrill or one night stand should take a step back and look at the ring on their finger. They should call up their lover or partner and speak to them. Remember the feelings when they first met or the most romantic time of their life and control the temptations of cheating.