Marital relationship comes to a standstill on many occasions due to insecurities. Couples suffer from relationship depression because they fail to understand what is going wrong between them. One of the major signs of insecurity in a relationship is when there is a discord between the couple. This leads to constant and frivolous arguments.

Romantic relationship is an enjoyable experience but most of the time it is short-lived. One of the many reasons for relationship failure is insecurity. There are many reasons for insecurity.

1) The husband or the partner is not able to spend enough time with the wife. She may feel that the partner is avoiding her or making excuses not to spend quality time at home. The weekend maybe planned to be spent with his family or the boyfriend may spend time with his own circle of friends. All this adds to the stress in the relationship. The image in the woman’s mind is that he has time for everyone but not for her. Her disappointments add up slowly making her lonely and depressed.

2) Most men feel that once a relationship is established like marriage vows are exchanged or physical needs are satisfied, that is all there is to the woman. She is supposed to understand that he needs to be alone with his friends. He doesn’t always want her to tag along with him. But the woman’s mind is not tuned like a man’s. She needs comforting, understanding and most of all appreciation.

3) A good-looking colleague, an old classmate and even a sexy neighbor can bring about a total change in a romantic relationship. The husband or wife should understand that fooling around or even flirting with the outsider does hurt the partner. Some people do it just to tease the partner but at times, if the partner is not in the mood for a joke, it can cause insecurities.

4) Women tend to be very insecure about their looks, height, weight and age. She enjoys a little bit of adulation from the man of her dreams. But if the man prefers spending time watching a game on TV or reading a book at bedtime, then she cannot always be blamed for every heated argument.

5) There are some people who need more assurance than others. This happens when the romantic relationship is just blossoming and the trust in the relationship is yet to develop. It is necessary to reinforce the love and commitment so that she understands the nature of the relationship.

6) Trust in a relationship bridges the life of the couple. This should never be tampered with.

7) Insecurities occur when partners take one another for granted.

The best way to overcome insecurity is to talk things out. Communication is the only means of solving any kind of marital problem.

9) Respect between partners is crucial to overcome insecurity.

10) Renewing the romance with surprise dinners, memorable gifts or even a single-red rose can melt away all insecurities in a relationship in an instant.

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For whatever reason you leave your job – whether you’ve found something else, or whether you’ve been laid off – it’s important to leave with dignity and professionalism. The reason for this is simple: you never know when you might work with the same people again, or when you might need a good reference.

So here are some guidelines for what to do, say and write when you leave your job.

1. Respect the hierarchy of your company.
Tell your boss first, then his / her superiors, then your close colleagues.
“I’ve decided to leave….”
“I’ve been offered a job with X company which I’ve decided to take.”

2. Give the correct amount of notice to your company.
“So I’d like to give you the two weeks’ (or four weeks’) notice.”
“I’ve told the other company that I need to give you four weeks’ notice.

(Remember that the company you’re leaving might want you to leave immediately if you deal with confidential information, or if you’re leaving to join a competitor.)

3. Write an official standard letter of resignation. (see below)

4. Make a list of your ongoing projects, and review them with your line manager.
“Can we make a time to discuss all my ongoing projects?”
“There are a number of outstanding projects that I’d like to discuss with you. When would be a good time?”
“To make sure everything is handed over properly, I’d like to make a time to review all my projects with you.”

5. Help your replacement.
Provide a list of all your projects and their status, and make sure your replacement has everything he / she needs to continue the job. If your notice period overlaps, you can also help train your replacement.

Official resignation letter sample

Dear (manager’s name)

I am writing to give official notice of my resignation from the post of (name the post).

As the notice period is (two weeks / four weeks / two months) I expect to be working until (give date).

In this time I will do my utmost to ensure a smooth transition period with my replacement, and to hand over any outstanding projects.

I have greatly enjoyed my time with (X company) and to have worked with you.

I wish the company and employees every success in the future.

Yours sincerely

(your name)

Email to colleagues
You can also write a brief, courteous email to your colleagues a day or so before you leave if they don’t already know you are going.

Example 1
This is just to let you know that I’m leaving my job on…. to take up a new post at …..

I’ve really enjoyed working with you and hope that our paths cross again.

You can contact me on (tel) and (private email).

Wishing you all every success in the future

(your first name)

Example 2
As you probably know, I’m leaving (name of company) on Friday, and I just wanted to thank you all for your help and support while I’ve been here. I’ve learned a lot about (industry sector) while I’ve been here, and I’ve really enjoyed working with you. I hope we can keep in contact in the future.

With best wishes
(your first name)