Marriages fall out everyday. Couples say that they tried but it didn’t work out. They are heart broken. Slowly, they heal their emotional scars and try again. But the hurt of the first marriage still lingers somewhere and transforms into their lives again.

Some common reasons why marriages fail are:

1) Fault finding or criticism are hurtful. It involves attacking someone’s nature rather than their behaviour. This hurts the self esteem of the person.

2) Intimacy is crucial in a marriage. Everyone needs and wants to be cared for and nurtured. If this is deprived then the marriage is sure to fail.

3) Nagging and complaining leads to annoyance. It is good to vent out problems but doing that too often is not healthy. Communicate, discuss and resolve your differences rather than bringing them up and arguing over them daily.

4) Stonewalling your partner because you don’t want to deal with the problem. A partner may feel overwhelmed by emotions and problems that the relationship is facing so he/she can withdraw himself/herself. They avoid confrontations by remaining silent, avoid eye contact and decide to sleep early rather than opening and resolving their feelings.

5) Adjustment is the foundation of any marriage. If you are going to live together then you have to give in to your spouse’s good and bad habits. Many find various habits of their partner irritating and annoying.

6) Infidelity can range from a one night drunken mistake to a long term, planned affair. Infidelity happens when feelings of depression, stress or just being overwhelmed with the pressures of life can cause some people to neglect their appearance and hygiene. Another reason for looking outside the marriage is when couples become very demanding. A wife or husband may not realize that nagging and complaining is demanding. It puts a lot of pressure on a spouse to be a certain way for the other. And if they are unable to follow the desired wishes and commands then they start searching for peace outside the house.

Marriages can work if each one understands the other with empathy, communicates openly and stand by each other, taking marriage as a lifelong commitment.

1) Take time out to spend it in a meaningful way with your partner. Quality time is essential to rekindle your love and romance away from kids, family and friends.

2) Relationship needs security and warmth. This is only possible when each person understands the other and is willing to bend a little to accommodate their needs.

3) Love each other dearly but learn to give each other space.

4) Men are rarely able to express themselves as women do. They need more time alone to sort out their thoughts before expressing them. Understanding their needs helps to maintain harmony and respect.

5) Learn to appreciate and compliment one another.

6) Express the way you want him to arouse you. This helps him to understand your needs for intimacy.

7) Learn to be genuine in a relationship. This helps to sort out indifferences and misunderstandings.

Love one another with all their good traits as well as bad ones.

9) Be clear in your dealings with your better half. Avoid being resentful. If you had an argument, make up and avoid carrying the ill-feelings forward.

10) It is not a good idea to give your partner a hard time. It will instead make him more obstinate. The best way to accept his good qualities and ignore the ones you dislike.

11) Financial matters are usually the cause of conflicts. Learn to work on a budget and manage your investments jointly.12) Divide your domestic tasks so that both get a chance to manage and run the household successfully.

13) Parenting is a wonderful experience. Share your views and raise your kids together.

14) Learn to bring the passion back if you find a slump in it.

15) Don’t get tempted with one night stand. Remember your marriage vows and what he/she means to you before you give it all up just for adventure or a wager.

16) If you are bored with your partner, it usually covers up some form of anger. It is important that you find out the cause of it.

17) Always be positive and that rubs off on the family members. If he/she is feeling low, give him/her space before hovering over them with questions.

18) Avoid arguments. Don’t be harsh and say hurtful things which will haunt you later.

19) Being perfect all the time is not always possible. Make up for the time you have been nasty by commenting something sweet or hugging him/her.

20) Live in harmony by discussing your likes, desires and goals in life. In this way, achieving them together cements the relationship better.

21) Accept one another and don’t be bitter if he/she has a trait that you dislike. Learn to work around it.

22) Forgiveness is essential in a relationship. But if you find that you really cannot forgive a person then it is best that you move on and find someone else. Being resentful for the rest of your life is not good for the heart and soul.

23) It is important that you realize that the two of you will change and discover yourself as the years go by. You may think that you know him now but later he may not be the same person. So make it a point to find out if neither of you have changed your mind.

24) If the relationship is making you miserable like physical and emotional abuse. Then it is best that you break it off.

25) Seeking advice from counselors doesn’t always mean failure. Professionals know how to manage relationships and provide insights that you may have not considered before.

Every effort that is put in a relationship is never a loss. You will always reap its benefits in some form or the other. If nothing else, you will understand yourself better.

One sided love in a relationship is destined for a breakup. The one who is still in love with the partner tries hard to hold on and tries his/her best to bring things back to normal. But the one, who has decided to move on, usually does and never looks back. In most situations, it is the man who doesn’t want the relationship anymore. There are many excuses to separate each other like hectic work schedule, family obligations and of course incompatibility. Men, who want to avoid long-term commitments like marriage and family life, usually are the first to take this step. Everything is good as long as the woman doesn’t want a “happily ever after” situation. Men want to remain always a free bird.

Women are emotional fools who seek men who will be good husband and father material. They are willing to overlook physical flaws and focus of emotional and financial security but in the end, they are the ones who are left with nothing but emotional baggage of rejection and being dumped for apparently no genuine faults.

One sided love in a relationship is really hard because the man can easily detach himself and erase the past and move to the next woman. But the woman in most cases carries this burden of heartbreak for a long time.

At times, when the man wants to break away and he can’t find any solid grounds for the breakup, he then tries emotionally hurting the woman. He becomes short-tempered, prefers to point fingers at her any shortcomings and compares her with the girlfriends or wives of his friends and colleagues. He finds new and innovative ways to emotionally torture her and this continues until she totally breaks down. After he succeeds, he is guilt free because she is now totally unfit to live a harmonious life with him. Some men even physically abuse their partners.

One sided love in a relationship is an emotional torture where the woman knows she is not wanted anymore in her partner’s life but she loves him too much to let go. This vulnerable stage deeply affects the mindset of the person and bars her from leading a normal, healthy and fulfilling life. It is fate worse than death.

We hope that this article gives insight to couples who are in one sided love relationship. Maybe they could take control of their lives and save themselves before becoming emotional slaves of those they thought they could trust and depend on in their hour of need.

You may getaway faking in bed, but when it comes to maintaining a relationship, such excuses are unforgiving.

Love is like a tender sapling. It needs a lot of care and understanding. Just because you love one another, it doesn’t give you the freedom to do as you please and expect the other person to understand. The spouse may understand certain situations but expecting it every time will only end the love.

If you want a relationship then you have to work at it and it goes both ways. The couples have to give their best to make one another happy. Every relationship is not perfect and there are times when during adjustments, one may get hurt and feel left out. Mistakes, errors are part of life and so is forgiveness. Forgive and forget are stepping stones to building a rock solid foundation of a blissful life.

Being adamant and rigid never solves problems. The stubbornness only causes grief, stress and damages the trust. Excessive use of sorry will never hold in everyday living. Say it when it matters the most. Overuse of anything will lead to the deterioration of its value.

Ways To Say Sorry

1) Buying her flowers.

2) Gifting a memento symbolizing the end of war between the two.

3) Taking her dancing and saying it when she least expects it.

4) Going out for dinner.

5) Cooking him a dinner and setting a romantic ambiance.

Getting tickets to his favorite game and cheering with him on the stands.

Do whatever it takes to ask for forgiveness and be genuine in your approach. The word- “Sorry” means nothing if there are no feelings attached to it.

A little bit of TLC has never hurt anyone. Sometimes a little kind and affectionate words can make your girlfriend feel loved and appreciated. Expensive gifts and dinner dates are not always needed to make your girl feel special. It is a known fact that women love feeling wonderful about themselves and being complimented. Here is how you do it:

1. Tell her how beautiful she is.
2. Let her know that you find her steamy and seductive.
3. Compliment her various skills like culinary or creativity.
4. Express yourself clearly and tell her how much she means to you.
5. Let her know that she is your best friend.
6. Be affectionate to her in the presence of friends and family.
7. Listen to her suggestions.
8. Discuss your goals and desires in life with her.
9. Making her a part of your life in every way makes her feel wanted and desired.
10. Respect her wishes and feelings.

Tender, love and care should be showered in abundance regularly. It makes the hearts grow fonder and the relationship deep-rooted. Making someone part of your life is not always easy. Your girlfriend needs to understand you and your lifestyle. Compatibility and adjustments will come in a relationship when both the partners know that they are cared for. Take small steps in developing a stable relationship by appreciating the person in your life. This gives security and two hearts will soon beat as one.