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30 Mar 2009 @ 12:52 PM

How To Handle A Cheating Partner

There are many ways to decipher the signs that your partner is cheating on you. Initially you won’t want to believe but then your instincts scream it aloud and then you have to face reality. Here are some tell tale signs that he is betraying your love and trust.

1) The changes in wardrobe, hairstyling, extra grooming care when done all of a sudden can raise an eyebrow. He/She decides to join gym or weight loss programme. The chances are that he/she is trying to impress someone else or perhaps is already in another relationship.

2) Making excuses for not being home. They justify their absence with dinner meetings, conference, business travels and get defensive when you question his/her whereabouts.

3) Being secretive and suspicious behaviour when attending to their phone calls. Talking calls in the next room, text messaging secretly or smiling when receiving calls and not sharing who the caller was and lying that it was a wrong number all lead to a conclusion of an affair.

4) It is very commonly seen that the partner who is cheating tends to become more loving towards their partner because of their guilt. But this is short-lived. They slowly start arguing and create a tense environment at home and look for excuses to break-up the relationship or marriage.

5) With the internet being so easy and accessible, there are chances that he/she maybe romantically involved electronically. Some signs are that they are always logged in and have become a recluse. They switch the computers when you are around. Delete their cookies and history files so that you won’t know which site they visit.

6) Their preferences and interests change and they start developing sudden new hobbies. It could be choice of music or being selective about their eating habits.

There are chances that your partner has drifted from you and seeing someone else. Before confronting him/her always get some proof before you fly in with accusations. Try and keep a check on your emotions even though this is your life and a lot is at stake, so think and act reasonably. Listen to what your partner has to say without interrupting him. Weigh the pros and cons of the situation before making a final decision. Never grovel or beg in front of your partner if he decides to leave you for someone else. Discuss the situation with other members of your family and seek their support. Don’t be alone, request the company of family members and friends who will support you and stand by you no matter what.